Trial and error (and success) is better
Some married men (and couples) think that it is useful to read sex manuals or watch pornography because it is part of their "sex education" -- they will be better…
What Men Want in Sex?
Well, a title like "what men want in sex" is, to some extent, a come-on. I don't think anyone can say what "men" want in sex, despite many efforts to…
My Generous Wife!
One theme in this website’s musings has been the sexual differences between men and women, with husbands typically wanting to have relations more often than wives. This can lead to…
Self-Gift or Self-Centered?
One problem that arises from differences between the sexes regarding the frequency of marital relations is this: the tension regarding how often to make love can exacerbate the tendency of…
The Gasp
The Gasp! There is much written about the alleged limits of sexual stimulation of a women by sexual intercourse (penetration and thrusting), as opposed, for example, to manual stimulation, with…
How to sanctify marital sex: a few notes
Not many people think of "sanctifying" sex -- but why not? It's good (very good!) and it comes from God -- why shouldn't it "go back to Him" as well?…
The Perennial Issue in Marriage, Again
It is a commonplace observation that men are often frustrated that their wives are not more interested in marital relations (that is, as interested as they are). Men would like…
How Important is the Sexual Satisfaction of a Wife?
[This is an expansion of a brief comment on a good post at catholicintimacy.com.] The answer to this question is simple: a wife's sexual satisfaction is really important, and, fortunately,…
Husbands Tend to Take the Lead
Husbands take the lead As I mention at other places on this website, I think that, in general (especially in genuine marriages, not just sexual couplings generically), husbands tend to…
Additional Thoughts on Foretalk
In the body of this website, one of the subjects is "foretalk," which I discuss here. I want to provide some additional thoughts on foretalk in this post. There are…