Self-Gift or Self-Centered?
One problem that arises from differences between the sexes regarding the frequency of marital relations is this: the tension regarding how often to make love can exacerbate the tendency of…
The Gasp
The Gasp! There is much written about the alleged limits of sexual stimulation of a women by sexual intercourse (penetration and thrusting), as opposed, for example, to manual stimulation, with…
How to sanctify marital sex: a few notes
Not many people think of "sanctifying" sex -- but why not? It's good (very good!) and it comes from God -- why shouldn't it "go back to Him" as well?…
The Perennial Issue in Marriage, Again
It is a commonplace observation that men are often frustrated that their wives are not more interested in marital relations (that is, as interested as they are). Men would like…
How Important is the Sexual Satisfaction of a Wife?
[This is an expansion of a brief comment on a good post at catholicintimacy.com.] The answer to this question is simple: a wife's sexual satisfaction is really important, and, fortunately,…
Husbands Tend to Take the Lead
Husbands take the lead As I mention at other places on this website, I think that, in general (especially in genuine marriages, not just sexual couplings generically), husbands tend to…
Additional Thoughts on Foretalk
In the body of this website, one of the subjects is "foretalk," which I discuss here. I want to provide some additional thoughts on foretalk in this post. There are…
Unusually Thoughtful Comments on Marital Sexuality
As I have mentioned elsewhere on this website, I think the quality of reflection on marital lovemaking on websites today is generally pretty poor. (Moreover, there is not a lot…
The Other Side of Older Sex
I recently posted on the benefits and delights of "older sex." For example, my wife can stimulate me manually for a much longer time now than when I was young…
Sex in Old Age
A typical web discussion of sex in old age these days either trumpets how great it is, and how there need be no fall off from sex earlier in life,…