The Gasp
The Gasp! There is much written about the alleged limits of sexual stimulation of a women by sexual intercourse (penetration and thrusting), as opposed, for example, to manual stimulation, with…
How to sanctify marital sex: a few notes
Not many people think of "sanctifying" sex -- but why not? It's good (very good!) and it comes from God -- why shouldn't it "go back to Him" as well?…
Looking Into or Looking At?
Looking into Eyes Let me ask this question: which is "more important"? To look into a woman's eyes or to look at her breasts? Looking at Breasts Notice the interesting…
The Perennial Issue in Marriage, Again
It is a commonplace observation that men are often frustrated that their wives are not more interested in marital relations (that is, as interested as they are). Men would like…
How Important is the Sexual Satisfaction of a Wife?
[This is an expansion of a brief comment on a good post at catholicintimacy.com.] The answer to this question is simple: a wife's sexual satisfaction is really important, and, fortunately,…
Husbands Tend to Take the Lead
Husbands take the lead As I mention at other places on this website, I think that, in general (especially in genuine marriages, not just sexual couplings generically), husbands tend to…
Physical Beauty in Old Age
Someone who has been attracted to his wife's beauty for many decades is likely to have to confront the question of how to respond to a decline in her physical…
Other Aspects of Sex in Old Age?
I find that there are two countervailing tendencies in sex in old age. (Keep in mind that I am describing long-term marital sex, where a husband and wife have had…
Additional Thoughts on Foretalk
In the body of this website, one of the subjects is "foretalk," which I discuss here. I want to provide some additional thoughts on foretalk in this post. There are…
From Physical Beauty to Spiritual
Physical beauty can exert such an intense pull on us (men), because we are creatures of sense. That impact can be very immediate and powerful. Seeing a very beautiful woman…