Can a Wife Orgasm Through Intercourse?

Can a wife orgasm through ordinary vaginal intercourse?    

	There are many online statements to the effect that few (e.g., 18%) of women can orgasm from penetration alone. There is perhaps a worthwhile intention here of stressing the importance of clitoral stimulation for making sex for a wife satisfying (and clitoral stimulation is great). At the same time, there may be a less valuable intention of exaggerating the sexual dissatisfaction of women and downplaying PIV intercourse by understating its value in a woman’s sexual satisfaction.

   But if you read the studies more closely, it turns out that, in fact, over half of women (54%) can orgasm from penetration alone, but for 36% (vs. 18%) it’s not as enjoyable as it is if there is also clitoral stimulation.  And if you combine the 18% who can orgasm from penetration alone (strongly), and the 36% who can orgasm (but more weakly) from penetration alone, and those who orgasm from penetration plus clitoral stimulation, then the women who can orgasm from penetration are the overwhelming majority of women (about 90%).
    More importantly, perhaps, I think most marital sex naturally involves some foreplay (it’s really enjoyable, after all!), as well as intercourse with penetration and movement. The bottom line is that when you combine foreplay (with clitoral stimulation) and penetration, the number of women who can orgasm is very high. Which is wonderful to know. It is true that we want to encourage husbands to make love in a way that will delight their wives, including her having a satisfying orgasm. It is also worthwhile saying (though fewer online stories says this) that, in most cases, ordinary marital intercourse, with foreplay and penetration and thrusting, can accomplish this.

Sexual Union That Aids a Wife’s Orgasm

    Another observation about a wife’s orgasm: there are differences between kinds of sexual union and penetration and the action within it. Specifically, when a husband is in his wife, he can provide more or less clitoral stimulation.  
    One of the advantages of the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT), for example, is that, when the husband in an ordinary missionary position moves himself higher on his wife’s body, there is more contact between his penis and her clitoris.  With CAT, instead of thrusting, the husband and wife move up and down (in opposite directions), and studies show that many women find this more satisfying and likely to lead to orgasm.  
    Also, if you recall what I’ve noted about the female anatomy here, the clitoris is not just the “bulb”, but also extends on either side beneath the skin. In vaginal intercourse, “[a]s the penis pulls out, it pulls the inner lips to the clitoris and rubs against it”, stimulating the clitoris. 


    Women can also increase contact between the penis and clitoris by “angling”. One study showed that “87.5% of women make vaginal penetration more pleasurable using ‘Angling’: rotating, raising, or lowering the pelvis/hips during penetration to adjust where inside the vagina the . . . penis rubs and what it feels like.”
     The same study showed that about “ 76% of women make vaginal penetration more pleasurable using ‘Rocking’: the base of a penis . . . rubbing against the clitoris constantly during penetration, by staying all the way inside the vagina rather than thrusting in and out (similar to CAT).
    Moreover, certain sex positions also can increase contact between the penis and clitoris, such as the lotus sex position. The husband sits cross-legged on the floor, while the wife straddles him, and lowers herself down on his penis in a low squat position or wraps her legs around her husband. From here, spouses can either grind together, the husband supporting the wife with his hands around her back, or the wife can move up and down.
    Moreover, the movement of a wife herself during thrusting can make a difference in the amount of clitoral or g-spot stimulation, as indicated here and here and here and here and here. 

    The point of all this is to reassure a husband and wife that there are ways to achieve orgasm in ordinary marital intercourse, despite the fact that many online sources seem to suggest that, for most women, only direct manual or oral stimulation of the clitoris makes a wife’s orgasm possible. So the simple answer to the question "can a wife orgasm through intercourse" is clearly "yes." 
    At the same time, without downplaying the desirability of a wife's orgasm (which is great and desirable), it's worthwhile remembering that, for some women (especially in long-term marriages), orgasm is not the be-all and end-all of marital relations that some people assume it is.